A question we ask ourselves these days. After fifty-six years of marriage ( we were very young, I often hasten to add☺️) it's a sobering thought. And usually answered by me with my writing, and he with his gardening - and both with our local U3a, a lifesaver in so many ways of living, learning, and community. Lovely post Prue, thanks.
A sobering thought for me, after organising my dad's funeral, that one of us will be organising for the other. I don't like to think about the time after too much, as you say no-one can really know how it/they will be.
Love your little kitchen aid, ooops about the lamy pen and leather slippers.
It's always in the back of my mind, I suppose. It would be naive not to give it passing thought, but I really don't want to think it about if I can help it. Time enough when its needed by one or other of us.
Kitchen aid? Ha! I think he's just waiting for food to fall, or begging forgiveness for the Lamy pen! Cuteness overload... XXXX
I agree. Periodic anxiety is part of my life as well. Hence daily meditation and mindfulness. There really is so much sense in living in the moment as much as possible.
And re the pup, you're right - he loves being wherever we are - even the bathroom.
Losing anyone we love is so painful. I’m not married and cannot imagine the pain of losing a long term marital partner. I totally understand why you don’t want to even think about it. Sigh…. Thank goodness for puppy dogs. And proximity to the sea. And Substack! Take care dear Prue. Enjoy your winter and the warmth of all that cooking. 🤗🤗
I suppose loss is loss, Beth - be it a pet, a bestest friend, a child, even one's health. You're right, it doesn't bear thinking about, does it. Puppy dog? Hmm - he's apparently entering adolescence and we may have to return to school as he seems to have forgotten how to walk steadily by my side. Forgotten, or perhaps doesn't want to - too busy!
Rain has stopped and we are having mid teens for the next few days - should be nice.
Yes to the question that's there between us too... & I've realised lately I've made "assumptions" in a couple of throw away lines that I will be the one left. That's not a good idea is it? Thanks for the newsy news & I loved the photo from the walk taken by your husband!
It's a heavy subject. Hence being so glad that the pup broke wind!
Our night walks are most often such a thing of great beauty. Because of the lack of street lights and city paraphernalia, our heavens are deep ebony and the universe is laid out in glittering glory. Even the odd wisp of cloud has its own perfection.
When we're in the city, everything is so washed out. We come across tiny bats, mopokes, owls, bandicoots and the ubiquitous wallabies and rabbits. I should write a post about it all.
Warm and comforting words which continue to inspire me to live my best life everyday. However, I’m not a Pollyanna and some days I do wallow in too much introspection and yes on confronting mortality especially Pete’s who is 10 years older and less hale than me. Ah the wonders of modern medicine that keep us going. Is it a blessing or curse?
Our diet is more restricted. Son #1 is a marathon running vegan and his inputs into diet and lifestyle arn’t always appreciated by a 76 & 86 years old. If had my time over again would I really do things differently? The wonder of hindsight…yeah right!
I love my daily walking (with weighted vest, good for muscles and bones so I’m told) but I have to rug up in puffer, beanie and gloves. I go through boxes of “hot toes” heat pads. I hate the cold! fYI Canberra is cold
Three days a week my gym buddies make me laugh. Two days a week my bookclub makes me read and think and engage in (sometimes) lively discussions. Some weeks are full others less so. Am I still adjusting to my third age? A definite yes?
Thank you for sharing your life with me and special thank you to other-readers for their comments.
Hi Krystyna. I too have often wondered if its a blessing or a curse and whether we should let nature take its course. But then we are the masters of our own destiny, and if we really believed that, wouldn't we stop taking all the meds and find our natural end? Perhaps we are all far more afraid of death than we let on.
My son is a trail runner with an incurable lung disease but he is fit, eats well and is adept at reminding us how much we should be excercising.
Our late autumn/winter has been so mild here in Tassie. No doubt 'when the days get longer, the cold will get stronger' and that's okay because I'm a strong believer in fresh air and freezing out the germs!
I'm not at all a gym bunny but I find my ballet is for me what your gym is for you We laugh, groan and build up a sweat. As to everything else, we live for each other and the dog, which is probably why my husband asked such a question in the first place.
A question we ask ourselves these days. After fifty-six years of marriage ( we were very young, I often hasten to add☺️) it's a sobering thought. And usually answered by me with my writing, and he with his gardening - and both with our local U3a, a lifesaver in so many ways of living, learning, and community. Lovely post Prue, thanks.
Thank you, Judith. It certainly came out of the blue.
U3A - good idea. Then there's volunteering, as Kathleen Hart says in her Substack.
I shrink from the thought of 'after' though - not yet. Time enough later...
As my husband says, 'Things to do, places to see.'
'Things to do, places to see.' Indeed. Let's make the most of life now, Prue. ☺️
A sobering thought for me, after organising my dad's funeral, that one of us will be organising for the other. I don't like to think about the time after too much, as you say no-one can really know how it/they will be.
Love your little kitchen aid, ooops about the lamy pen and leather slippers.
It's always in the back of my mind, I suppose. It would be naive not to give it passing thought, but I really don't want to think it about if I can help it. Time enough when its needed by one or other of us.
Kitchen aid? Ha! I think he's just waiting for food to fall, or begging forgiveness for the Lamy pen! Cuteness overload... XXXX
Or maybe he just really wants to be near you.
As one prone to a touch of anxiety I don’t feel I need to live through the tough moments more times than necessary.
I agree. Periodic anxiety is part of my life as well. Hence daily meditation and mindfulness. There really is so much sense in living in the moment as much as possible.
And re the pup, you're right - he loves being wherever we are - even the bathroom.
Losing anyone we love is so painful. I’m not married and cannot imagine the pain of losing a long term marital partner. I totally understand why you don’t want to even think about it. Sigh…. Thank goodness for puppy dogs. And proximity to the sea. And Substack! Take care dear Prue. Enjoy your winter and the warmth of all that cooking. 🤗🤗
I suppose loss is loss, Beth - be it a pet, a bestest friend, a child, even one's health. You're right, it doesn't bear thinking about, does it. Puppy dog? Hmm - he's apparently entering adolescence and we may have to return to school as he seems to have forgotten how to walk steadily by my side. Forgotten, or perhaps doesn't want to - too busy!
Rain has stopped and we are having mid teens for the next few days - should be nice.
Hope its a good long weekend for you.
Yes to the question that's there between us too... & I've realised lately I've made "assumptions" in a couple of throw away lines that I will be the one left. That's not a good idea is it? Thanks for the newsy news & I loved the photo from the walk taken by your husband!
It's a heavy subject. Hence being so glad that the pup broke wind!
Our night walks are most often such a thing of great beauty. Because of the lack of street lights and city paraphernalia, our heavens are deep ebony and the universe is laid out in glittering glory. Even the odd wisp of cloud has its own perfection.
When we're in the city, everything is so washed out. We come across tiny bats, mopokes, owls, bandicoots and the ubiquitous wallabies and rabbits. I should write a post about it all.
Thank you for visiting...
Warm and comforting words which continue to inspire me to live my best life everyday. However, I’m not a Pollyanna and some days I do wallow in too much introspection and yes on confronting mortality especially Pete’s who is 10 years older and less hale than me. Ah the wonders of modern medicine that keep us going. Is it a blessing or curse?
Our diet is more restricted. Son #1 is a marathon running vegan and his inputs into diet and lifestyle arn’t always appreciated by a 76 & 86 years old. If had my time over again would I really do things differently? The wonder of hindsight…yeah right!
I love my daily walking (with weighted vest, good for muscles and bones so I’m told) but I have to rug up in puffer, beanie and gloves. I go through boxes of “hot toes” heat pads. I hate the cold! fYI Canberra is cold
Three days a week my gym buddies make me laugh. Two days a week my bookclub makes me read and think and engage in (sometimes) lively discussions. Some weeks are full others less so. Am I still adjusting to my third age? A definite yes?
Thank you for sharing your life with me and special thank you to other-readers for their comments.
Hi Krystyna. I too have often wondered if its a blessing or a curse and whether we should let nature take its course. But then we are the masters of our own destiny, and if we really believed that, wouldn't we stop taking all the meds and find our natural end? Perhaps we are all far more afraid of death than we let on.
My son is a trail runner with an incurable lung disease but he is fit, eats well and is adept at reminding us how much we should be excercising.
Our late autumn/winter has been so mild here in Tassie. No doubt 'when the days get longer, the cold will get stronger' and that's okay because I'm a strong believer in fresh air and freezing out the germs!
I'm not at all a gym bunny but I find my ballet is for me what your gym is for you We laugh, groan and build up a sweat. As to everything else, we live for each other and the dog, which is probably why my husband asked such a question in the first place.
Thanks so much for commenting. Cheers.